July 13, 2011


Nikki, age 7
Wheeling, W. Virginia (1979)

I grew up in a Catholic household in West Virginia. I attended Catholic school for 12 years and never heard anyone talk about being gay until I was in high school. Of course, when I did hear these comments, they were not positive.

I think that I always knew that I was different than the other girls in my neighborhood and school. At that time, I had short hair and was into sports, more than any of my friends.

I resisted wearing dresses or anything girly. I spent my time hanging out with the boys in the neighborhood, playing tackle football, instead of playing house with the girls.

I remember once, right around age 7, telling one of my friends in the neighborhood that I was really a boy, but that we just told people that I was a girl.

I remember that the one thing she said was, "But then you won't be able to have babies!" I didn't really care about having babies, so I just shrugged my shoulders. But she was really upset about it.

She told her mom what I had told her. Her mom, of course, told my mom and
I got in trouble for lying. Looking back now, I know that I didn't really want to
be a boy. What I wanted was what boys could have: relationships with girls.

Today, I am completely out to my family and they have been very supportive.
I am also out at work and have some great, supportive co-workers.

What I would tell the youth of today, is to find people who will support you and
let you be yourself. Life is amazing when you can finally be yourself!

Nikki's first, famous-person same sex crush:
Nancy McKeon (Jo on "The Facts of Life")
The Facts of Life - The Complete Third SeasonLoving Mountains, Loving Men (Ethnicity & Gender In Appalach)Fortunate Families: Catholic families with lesbian daughters and gay sons

Also check out "My First Gay Crush Blog"


the island guy said...

Loved reading this one :)

Anonymous said...

Telling your friend you're secretly a boy! That's hysterical! Loved this story.


Unknown said...

So innocent when revealing the truth about ourselves @ that age.

Just Two Chicks said...

I went to a Catholic school in England, and was never exposed to anything "gay" either and I hated boys! Bleh! No offense to men or boys now... I was young :)