February 13, 2011

Lewis

Lewis, age 10
Marl, Germany (1977)

I went to school in the 4th grade, dressed for what we call in Germany Fasching - our colorful and fun Carnival. I was in love with that silly, curly, big platinum white wig at the local trinket store. I used to walk by it every day after school and stare at it, and eventually bought it with my birthday money. The rest of the outfit I borrowed from mom. I remember I loved my painted nails – and look at how delicately I hold that corn on the cob.

Little did I realize, that years later I would fall in love with a woman named Dolly Parton. And I'm sure I would have stuffed my bra to complete the look, too.

In Germany, I was just an odd kid. There was a time they would tease me by calling me "Louise" but it faded quickly, and it didn't play much into our friendships. I always played with boys and girls, even during puberty.

But it was my own sense of worth I struggled with, more a result of our broken family dynamic than the other kids around me. Much of Europe treats sexuality as a part of life, and it's not demonized in the way America struggles with it.

Moving to the US during high school changed everything. American high school was aggressive. The kids made sure you knew there was something wrong with you, and then you try and change to fit in. Like carrying your books the right way down the hall. Until one day you wake up and realize:

'Maybe I was born this way. Maybe it is how I am meant to be.
Maybe I’m fine just the way I am.'


I read a quote recently by Dr. Mae Jemison that sums up how I feel these days:
"The best way to make dreams come true is ‘to wake up’. Don’t let others define you or limit where your imagination can take you."

So go paint your nails, little boys - because you have galaxies at your fingertips!

Lewis' first, famous-person same sex crush:
John Travolta

In his tight, little black underwear, combing his hair in 'Saturday Night Fever'
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2 comments:

strangegirl1316 said...

One of the many reasons I hate living here in the USA. They keep telling me that Europe's homophobic too but I've talked to people from there and I know that they aren't really.
But Louise, aww that's such a cute name. :3

randuwa said...

Lewis, the United States has become a fucked up place because we've never been devastated by war, and so too many of us still believe in God. This is our demon. And while I slewed it many years ago now, a dwindling majority of Americans still cling to the fantasy that there is a God and that that God only sanctions procreative sex. The tipping point for this fantasy is within our lifetimes. How amazing will the demise of that paradigm be! ;-) Let us all dance in the streets donning Dolly Parton's wig on that day!--you're just a little ahead of your time. Just a little.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Love, randy