January 26, 2011


Michael, age 11
Syracuse, NY (1986)

I remember this moment vividly, because it was our 5th grade school photos at our Catholic elementary school. The photographer was a gorgeous man in his 20's, and I was in love for the first time. I was feeling quite fierce that morning, and decided to wear my outfit from last Easter, since it was a big hit.  Overall it was a good day, and the picture speaks for itself.

"5th grade school photo and feeling fierce!"
I did have a pretty terrible childhood with an alcoholic father who left us (twice), and dealt with the taunting of the mean kids. I knew I was gay when I was 5, but didn't have the word to describe what I was feeling.

I really struggled to make sense of it, and kept the secret which was slowly making me insane. I can recall feeling so alone and wondering why I was so different from other kids. 

What really helped me through it all was my best friend Paris, and a song called "Hold On" by Wilson-Phillips.

I would listen to that song EVERY DAY and hope that I would eventually be OK.

All in all, my experiences made me a very strong and fabulous person. I am very happy with who I am and what I offer the world. My core belief is that I am a person of integrity. No one can take that away from me, ever. When I look at this picture now, I feel awesome! I am GAY and I think that is a special gift.

My message to the LGBT youth struggling now, is the same that helped me:

HOLD ON - and know that you are loved, and it gets better.
Reach out and get the support from all of us in the community.

And remember - what you resist, persists.

Michael's first, famous-person same sex crushes:
Burt Ward (Robin on "Batman")
Patrick Duffy (in "Dallas")
Scott Baio (in "Joanie Loves Chachi")


Unknown said...

I totally was in love with Scott Baio!! And, so thinking back now, you must have enjoyed getting all dolled up in a button up shirt and clip-on tie everyday for school :)

Unknown said...

I adore you and admire you MS! xo And yes, you are FABULOUS & FIERCE!!!! Love you, MR I mean, Michelle Richardson O'Malley

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Unknown said...

Hold On... By far the greatest song ever! Love you Mike!

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Anonymous said...

Mike, that smile is what keeps people going. Keep your head up, and God will Bless you Abundantly. I was there that day of our 5th grade pictures at Margarets and I will vouch he the photographer was "HOT". Love ya Sister!!

Anonymous said...

Inspirational... You are still fierce!