January 17, 2011


Gabor, age 11
Del Mar, CA (1980)

This gem of a photo was shot by my father. I had dressed myself in my mother's dress and sun hat, and was parading around our house. My father was a scientist, and my mother was a pianist - progressive European bohemians nudists that had gay friends in their circle of friends. So at home, I was safe.

It wasn't until I started school that the the bullying and torture began in regards to my sexuality.

I knew something was different about me by the time I was 8. And I quickly picked up the idea that I had better start hiding my truth, to avoid physical and emotional attacks.

These attacks led me to the brink of suicide.

In this picture, I am still happy and free like so many of the pictures on this blog.

Many of the pictures here capture the joy filled spirits that we are, before the mean world got to us.

Luckily, today I am happy and free again.
And I couldn't be happier with how my life turned out


Anonymous said...


Anonymous said...

so well said

Unknown said...

This photo is so brilliantly carefree - I applaud your parents for letting you be you.

I'm glad you are happy and free - and most of all, still here.