March 12, 2011

Kevin

Kevin, age 4
Akron, OH (1959)

Here, my older sisters dressed me up in their clothes, put me up front, and my dad took this picture. Looking back, a couple of things strike me about it. First, sisters are probably always wanting to dress up something or someone, like dolls or brothers, but most 3-year-old boys wouldn't allow it. Second, I struck a pose that gives it all away. I'm thankful my dad found the camera and actually took the picture, without protesting or objecting.

And notice my sisters weren't dressed nearly as pretty as I was!


I first knew I was "different" at 3-years old. I have a vivid memory of being in the back of my dad's '55 Buick station wagon, and seeing a really old man sitting on the ground in front of a building in downtown Akron, Ohio.

For some reason, I knew he had something I lacked, and I wanted it from him before he died. Turns out, that something I was missing was heterosexuality. That's a big word for a small kid, and I'm not saying that I knew exactly what was going on at that moment. But I do know that I felt different than my dad, brothers, or other men in general.

It was a sad moment for me, but it was the beginning of my knowing and understanding myself. I always knew down deep that I was different or gay, but I finally came out to myself and others at age 25.

And now, my life is good. I have a partner of 7 years, and 2 sons I adopted as infants, who are now 12 and 10 years old. I am out at work and everywhere I go. I don't believe in the closet - it's too stressful.

If others don't like me because I am gay, that's their problem. I already went through the self-acceptance process long ago -- starting with this picture of me in a dress!!!

Kevin's first, famous-person same sex crush:
Don Grady (Robbie on "My Three Sons")
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My Three Sons - Season One, Vol. 2 Permanent Partners: Building Gay & Lesbian Relationships That Last Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad (Race and Politics) Reclaiming Your Life: The Gay Man's Guide to Love, Self-Acceptance and Trust

1 comment:

Ingrid said...

i can't begin to tell you how happy this blog makes me! it's brought a huge smile to my face and tears to my eyes.. i'm not personally gay, but i'm so, SO proud of all the men and women featured here, and for the incredible courage and perseverance of LGBTQ individuals! i swear to you i will continue to be an ally and will fight for gay rights for the rest of my life.

sending lots of love to all my fellow humans around the world-

ingrid