January 13, 2011


Brian, age 5
Las Vegas, New Mexico (1973)

Here I am, with my cousin Terri - my first, smartest, and sassiest friend.

This image was rescued by my uncle from one of those photo buttons they sometimes sold at carnivals and in the 1970's. The carny would snap a Polaroid picture and use a big metal contraption to cut and encase the actual photograph inside a saucer-sized "button."

I think my parents paid for the photo-button to be made as a gift for my grandmother, because it sat accusingly on her family picture sideboard for decades. More recently, my photographer uncle digitized the photograph itself by dismantling the button. I have no idea why he then color treated the image.

I was quiet, sensitive, and non-athletic from the get go. I cared little for typical boy things, like playing outside, running, or throwing balls at people. And I only participated in such activities under duress, or my father's intimidating insistence.

I much preferred to watch TV, crayon-color, or play with my collection of GI Joe, Ken and Six Million Dollar Man dolls.

And I learned early on that the best protection from mean boys was a tough, fearless girl. It was not until the 2nd grade that I consciously trained myself never to show a dangly or "limp" wrist.

Brian's first, famous-person same sex crushes:
Matthew Laborteaux (Albert from "Little House on the Prairie")
Ike Eisenmann (Tony from "Witch Mountain" movies) 

Zan (from "Superfriends")

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Derek said...

"The best protection from mean boys is a tough, fearless girl." Truer words have never been spoken!

Van said...

I agree with Derek. I think you may spoken one of the basic tenets necessary for the survival of all Gay men when we were children: "The best protection from mean boys is a tough, fearless girl."

Well said!

Van in San Diego

PDXDZ9R said...

Wow I was so excited to see another gay vegan, you've got about four years on me. You might have gone to school with my sis if you went to Robertson!! I totally had a boy crush on Ike as well, could never get enough of Witch Mountain.

Josh (Las Vegas NM, now Portland, OR)

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E.l.M. said...

So sad that too many of us had to: "consciously trained myself never to..." do something/anything that would reveal our inner being. The WORLD WOULD BE SOOOOOOO MUCH MORE FABULOUS IF NO GAY PERSON HID THEIR INNER BEING.

Bonnie said...

I agree with E.l.M., and I love what Anonymous said! Hooray for tough, fearless girls!! (I hope I'm one.) Lots of love to you, Brian!

lol said...

Wow! I'm also from Las Vegas, NM... small town, I was shocked when I saw your post... had to comment even before reading it! Do you know the Jordan or Jaramillo families?

tgraf66 said...

I *still* have a crush on Ike...